It's official. I have now become Batman of the dating world. As the sun begins to fade, and the night begins to call, a new identity emerges, one that apparently can no longer be revealed to others- at least those whom I want to date. It seems that the "my life is an open book" strategy is not the best approach when it comes to dating.
Although some good has come out of this. After reading the Rejection Sucks blog himself, "Sam" called last night to apologize for his behavior, with the old "it wasn't you it was me" explanation (I genuinely believe that this was the truth). "However," he said "you did say something that I just couldn't get over." "What was that?" I replied (already knowing what was about to come out of his mouth). "You said you had been on close to 70 dates! I just couldn't believe it. I just felt like one of many."
You see, my reasoning is always "honesty is the best policy." Sam had a PhD and was a proven risk taker (if you recall he was the one about to climb Denali) and I figured he would appreciate my approach to finding love- looking at it as a numbers game, figuring that my best chances of finding love would lie in having a lot of "chances." Another reason for telling him this was to demonstrate that I would always be honest and upfront when he asked me a question. I also thought he understood that 70 dates did not mean 70 dates like the one Sam and I shared, and that I was not simultaneously dating 70 other men (these were all 70 first dates)...apparently not.
Another guy I was dating, and truly began liking, recently broke things off with me, saying "you have tied your love life to your professional growth, and I don't want to spoil your game, I think its a good one." If that wasn't bad enough, he offered up his production company to turn this blog into a show if the other producer's idea doesn't pan out. 
The blatant irony of this whole thing is that this blog was started as a therapeutic method of coping with the perils of dating in LA. However, it is now a contributing factor to further peril??!!
I do like sharing my psychological perspective of dating, and getting feedback from women across the world about how they have felt the same way, or how they never quite looked at a situation in the same way but are thankful for the reframe. I think this has been a healthy exercise for myself while trying to navigate a foreign terrain so far away from the home I grew up in. However, do I really want to become the sacrificial lamb of the LA dating scene?
In the meantime, I think I would like my own bat signal. Maybe a pink beam that projects the image of a martini in the sky..
"This is torture, at its most bizarre and terrible." - Batman
Brilliant!
I've been blogging about dating for almost 3 years and I have a completely different methodology. I'm completely anonymous, to protect my privacy and the privacy of the men I dated. So, kudos to you for really putting yourself out there, but now you're seeing the downfall.
Another thing I realized by my marathon dating was that I was just doing it to have material for my blog. And as far as a numbers game, well, I found that I never really took a guy as a serious candidate because there was always another date waiting for me the next day. More options doesn't guarantee more chances at love. If anything it makes us more particular because now we have so many candidates to choose from. All these guys are interviewing for the position of your boyfriend and in order to find the best one we really put them through their paces.